How Do You Measure Patience? - Part 6 (FINALE)

Recap:

“Girl, you mean your husband did not wake up last night with all that crying?”

“No, he didn’t. He is a really deep sleeper, so I wasn’t surprised. I just needed to let that anger out you know?”

In my mind I’m thinking; No, I don’t know. You cried so much yesterday I thought it was more than this stone story and to think your husband didn’t even wake up? But instead again I reply, “Yes, I know how it is.”

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“Yes, I know how it is. Did you at least discuss with him how you felt this morning? I mean he should know how that made you feel, don’t you think so?” I ask softly, trying to tread lightly.

“All is forgiven now,” she says a bit abruptly and I can sense it’s better this conversation ends sooner than later.

“No worries hun. I am happy all is sorted. You take care of yourself okay?”

“I will, thanks for listening, Sarah. I need to catch up on work now. See you around” and then she cuts the call.

I could sense something had just changed during our conversation. Was her husband there listening? The ‘all is forgiven’ part made me sure something was wrong. That is exactly what you tell someone when you think they are beginning to know too much. So I decide it is wise not to press any further.

There is a saying in my language, ‘oro toko taya soro dasi’, which means the issue between a husband and wife is difficult to interfere in. From the onset I had made up my mind that I didn’t want to know what happened anyway, so now she’s holding back, that works well for me.

I keep thinking though if I were in her shoes, what would I do? How do you resolve conflict or misunderstanding in marriage? Is the idea to sweep it under the carpet like it never happened, so everyone can carry on happy as usual? If I bring it up, do I become the nagging wife who can’t appreciate her husband’s gift, as abstract as it may seem? Pun intended. He had promised her a big surprise gift but could not deliver and then decided to be cheesy about it, does that make him smart and her foolish?

I muse again, what can my partner do to make me leave them? How do I measure when I have had enough? Is for better or worse a myth or fact? Could it be that these little offences that are never spoken about, swept under the carpet even, ultimately build up a fence between us?

Well, I wouldn’t know the answers until I get married, would I?

The END

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